Worms of Wisdoom
I once went to talk to a psychologist about a family matter. Not that I feel I should have to justify it, but I was living in a very difficult situation and I needed advice as to how to handle... things.
I highly recommend it. Screw the money. It's worth paying someone $100 to listen to you for an hour. If just to let your troubles float out into the air and into someone else's ear - someone else's PAID ear. THAT'S important, as it turns out. The money part.
But okay. I've paid my money and you don't have $100, so here, gratis, are two really important bits of advice he gave me. (I'd tell you his name, but I don't know if that's kosher. Here's a tantalizing hint - it's close to the name of a popular condiment.)
1. There is no such thing as a good decision or a bad decision. There is just a decision.
2. Just because something good happened, doesn't mean something bad will happen. Life will happen.
As you can see, he focused on my good/bad obsession. Which I am quite sure is a "girl" thing. And lord knows, they don't come much more "girl" than good ol' moi. I used to think I was a tomboy, but now I realize I was just a flirt - desperately seeking any male attention I could get. Even if it meant playing outfield in street baseball, listening to ronnie montrose albums, and having sex on a bus... (We were on the way to visit his parents...)
Yes. That's right - I'm a fatherless girl.
And fatherless girls really do spend their lives in search of the right man. I have friends who are happily married who couldn't really care less about their husbands. They don't factor much into their lives. Live and let live - just take out the garbage and go watch tv while I read my book. Of course, they all had fathers.
My father was dead.
Long story short? All grown up I find I've dug myself into a situation, so deep, that frugal, not worth it, little ol' me is willing to pay $100/hour for advice on how to handle... things.
That was several years ago and at the time, I didn't think the advice made much sense either. But it does. Try it.
And yeah, going from the situation I thought I couldn't handle, to the advice, way back to the dead father, fast forward to looking for the right man? I just saw the connection in the writing of this entry.
Brilliant.
