What Do Women Want?
Well... what do MEN want?
All I know is, I like being respected, appreciated, wanted - for being who I am. And, unfortunately (or fortunately - depending on your point of view), many women (my age, anyway) come to that realization during marriage. I mean, many of us married whomever we were hooked up with in our late teens and early 20s and, well, women can be pretty fake about who they are at that age. It takes years of fakery practice, but we can even fake out ourselves to make those relationships last for years - certainly long enough to have children.
Until suddenly - we can't keep up the fakey anymore and it all comes crashing down.
And really, we have no one but ourselves to blame.
Oh - and society, of course. Which brings me to my point that the real enemy of marriage is a society that encourages women to hide who they really are because society simply can't handle the truth that women aren't the nurturing forces of nature our own propaganda has led us to believe we are.
I mean, just look at Obama and Hillary. Obama gets to go out there and be real, while Hillary STILL has to be the woman - even though... well... c'mon. Oprah being black has nothing to do with why she isn't running. It's because she's single and childless and the Mother of all Career Women.
Meanwhile, in Canada, female politicians have to act like men or they don't get anywhere. And they aren't anywhere, are they. We're so afraid of women in this society that it's still an issue in the year 2007 that women are under-represented in Parliament.
But simply increasing their numbers won't make a difference because if women are just going to act like men, then what's the point? And they won't get elected if they don't, anyway, because our society is afraid of women being themselves. Look at all the fear and loathing expressed by the Right about women choosing to not have babies, to not get married, to go after careers instead. Women doing what they actually want is seen as a massive threat to social stability - not progress - by all our pundits on the right - you know, the ones that appear daily in the MSM.
We're still having a debate that young women aren't a part of because they're too busy being themselves to engage in it. It's so beyond relevant to their lives that it really is an anachronism. Of course, they don't read the MSM anyway, so I suppose it won't stunt their growth any to know that all these middle-aged and beyond pundits are desperately trying to put the genie back in the bottle. For reasons I cannot fathom, but - whatever.
Look at all these studies that read like warnings about women not getting married, women putting off childbirth, GIRLS DOING BETTER IN SCHOOL THAN BOYS, FERCHRISSAKES! It is the stuff of a society that is afraid of women ditching the fakery in favour of doing what they want and being themselves - instead of hooking up to complete some young fellow and playing the role of wife, then mother.
As far as I can tell, there is no real sense coming from established society that the more women are ourselves, the better society will be for it. It's all alarm bells and red alerts that we are on the slippery slope to something bad/wrong/evil.
Really, we still aren't very far from Adam and Eve and the Garden of Eden in our thinking, are we.
