Advice for the Lovelorn
I've never done this myself, so in keeping with the times, I feel more than qualified to advise others to do it and *it* is this: Imagine any prospective new partner as an ex and proceed accordingly.
But why, Sooey? Why so negative?
Ah, but is it negative to imagine your prospective new partner as an ex? Or is it, in fact, positive. Now, I wouldn't say this if I wasn't sure of myself, here. Having incredibly lucked out - in? - lovewise a few years ago, I can tell you that being with someone who would make as fine an ex as he does a current is worth its weight in gold.
GOLD - I tells ya!
Because given the odds, it is one great big hairy deal less to worry about if you know you can count on your current true love to be an ex true love, too. Just not around you. But still true. If you know what I mean.
So sure am I of this love test, that I think it should be put on all the pre-marital counselling courses - religious or otherwise. Couples should be given the test on the final day: "Turn to your partner. Look her straight in the eye. Imagine she is your ex. Is this person... still worth it? Like, for the few years you'll actually spend with her? As opposed to the rest of your life you'll have to deal with her?"
I mean, think about it. Isn't that the very thing NONE of us do when we get involved with someone else - IN SPITE OF THE STATISTICS?!
I'm all for love (although, in middle age I must say - like is even better) but I think it would save everybody a lot of time, money and grief if they did the love test first.
"Do you, take this person, even in Splitsville?"
